I met Carmen Rivera a few years ago while she was in publishing and I was new on the fashion circuit. But the 20-year industry vet recently left it all behind to start her latest project, Bliss Fashion Lounge, a luxury lingerie boutique. Currently, she’s embraced her new title as the Curvologist, as an expert on curves and styling curvaceous women, for not just foundations but fashions as well. Despite her busy schedule, the new small business owner took time out of her day to share with us her business, her goals, and her inspiration.
How do you start your day?
I stretch and rise and immediately thank God for allowing me to rise. I pray while I try to meditate but sitting still for any amount of time is difficult for me. I am learning. I workout (at least 5 days a week) in my home office along to some of my favorite YouTube videos or on my own while watching the morning news. Then I do my mom stuff – laundry, feed kids, take baby boy to school, etc…
How do you practice self-care?
I try to eat healthy and put things that are healthy on my skin and in and on body. I don’t eat too much garbage anymore which I think helps overall with self-care and attitude. I also try and take my time with all that I do. I don’t like being rushed because when I am, I get irritated. So I’ve learned that the things that have a negative effect on me, I don’t allow them to happen anymore. I also am trying a lot harder to meditate too as I think (the more I get older) that if my mind is at peace, everything else will fall into place. The universe is a powerful place so I’m only putting good out into mine and I feel wonderful doing it.
That’s easy… Bulleit Bourbon on the rocks, with a splash of coke (I said, JUST A SPLASH) and a lime.
What is the one thing that every #girlboss needs?
The one thing every woman should have, especially a girlboss, is a good bra, of course! A good bra should be a requirement for every woman and she should always have 3 good bras in rotation! When a woman wears a good bra, that fits her properly, it helps her stand taller, therefore projecting her self-confidence in a better light. A good bra also helps keeps the figure in place and everything exactly where it belongs.
Success for me has changed over the years. When I started as a young writer, way back in the mid-1990’s, the definition of success was only about accomplishing my personal goals, which I did early on. I didn’t make a lot of money but I completed my degree (after I had kids) and moved into the job I wanted but it wasn’t easy. It was really hard so I savored the success of it all.
Later in life, as things changed for me in media, it felt like my success was defined by “LIKES” and how many followers I had on social media sites. I hated that phase of “success” it felt phony to me because I felt people didn’t know me, they just liked me because their friends liked me…it was the smoke and mirrors phase but thankfully all of that has since cleared and that too has since changed.
These days my success is measured on how well I feel. I have raised my 3 sons to be good men. Two out of 3 of them are men but the last one isn’t too far behind the others. I have to say I’m pretty proud of my success with my sons. While each has had their own individual struggles at one time or another, they are all really good men which made me really proud and a successful mother. And that to me is first in my life.
My success has never been about how much money I have or what I’m driving, no. My success has always been about what I can do next especially when I have naysayers that think I can’t achieve my goals. To them I say, watch what happens next.
How Carmen defines success is beyond inspiring. Most people do in fact define success by their material possessions and bank account only to find that they still cannot find happiness. Success should be a satisfaction, a joy from achieving the small milestones as well as the bigger ones. That’s why this month, we are truly inspired by this Curvologist.